I had a lovely Kenyan wedding in December of 2017 that my wife and I had to plan and execute on our own. Most men dread weddings and the problems they present, particularly in terms of financial expenditure. And I won’t deny that you may end up spending quite a bit of money.
I will, however, categorically refute the claim that it’s all one big waste of time. It’s not. At least not in my opinion.
Why is that?
Well, look at it from the following viewpoint. If you are a parent, you’ve most likely made 1-2 major sacrifices for your children. You’ve done something that you did not want to, or necessarily need to do, in order to see them happy. Because their happiness was a lot more worth it than whatever small sacrifice you had to make.
Having a wedding is exactly like that. Only in this case, the child is your new bride. There’s only one difference actually. Whereas the sacrifice to the child will probably be enjoyed by just the child, a wedding day is something you as the groom will really enjoy.
But only if you execute it properly.
As you can tell from my aforementioned belief, this is not going to be a post about having a Kenyan wedding on a budget. It’s also not going to be one about splashing a lot of cash to impress your guests either.
As a matter of fact, I won’t mention cash at all. I also won’t get into the technical aspects of planning a wedding in Kenya. You’re a big boy/girl. I wouldn’t dare patronize you by trying to tell you the obvious.
I’m not going to attempt to tell you how to plan your wedding in Kenya. I personally really dislike articles that try to tell me what to do without getting to know me first.
The fact is we all have different tastes. And I would never dare to superimpose mine onto yours.
What I will do is give you insights that I gained from planning my own Kenyan wedding.
What this post is about is what I personally learned from planning my own Kenyan wedding.
I’m hoping you will learn something, however small. Then maybe you can use some of this information as you plan your own wedding.
I decided to write this article because whenever I Googled how to plan your own wedding in Kenya, I came across articles that were written by single women with no wedding experience. They’d give very unrealistic advice.
So I thought I’d give you my firsthand experience. Things I learned about planning a Kenyan wedding, from a man who actually planned his own Kenyan wedding.
And to do that, I’ll start with the mistakes I made, then go into the things I did right. Because a man cannot lead if he can’t admit his mistakes. It’s not poetic, I know. I came up with it just now.
Anyway, let’s begin.
I wish I hadn't let fear and doubt hold me back.
Here’s the thing. In my business, what I do is I hire only the best staff. Only the best. No matter how much they cost me.
Because my loyalty is to the customer and his satisfaction. However, as I was planning the wedding, I went with a lot of my friends as suppliers. So I gave a lot of the vendor contracts to people I knew personally.
Why did I do that? Because I was afraid.
I had heard horror stories of suppliers not showing up. And I wanted to mitigate that risk. So rather than give the catering contract to a stranger, I went with a friend who does catering.
There’s one fatal flaw with that reasoning though. Something I learned the hard way. While being friends with them guarantees that they will turn up, it doesn’t in any way guarantee the quality of their services.
In fact, now that I think about it, the best suppliers at my wedding were actually the strangers I had never met before. It makes total sense that someone with experience who has a reputation at stake that’s dependent on how things go, will do a much better job than someone with nothing to lose.
If I could go back, I would pick the wedding suppliers based on the quality of their work. Not on the fear that they might not turn up.
And speaking of quality.
I wish I had invested more in the right things, and less in the wrong things
Don’t let the above point fool you, my wedding was a huge success. A point that will become much clearer once we get into the positives.
All the suppliers showed up. The food was not good, but the MC was so good, that the poor quality of the food didn’t matter much. The DJ was horrible. But the MC made sure that no one cared. Do you see where I’m going with this?
I overpaid both the caterer and the DJ while underpaying the MC.
And how would I have been able to avoid this? By staying true to what was truly important to us from the very beginning.
We wanted our friends and family to enjoy themselves. That was of paramount importance. I wanted them to feel like, “Inasmuch as I sacrificed an entire Saturday, it was definitely worth it.”
A wedding, in my opinion, is a party. It’s a celebration of two people coming together. Whenever you hold a party, the most important thing is usually the people (person in this case) who will make the party a lot of fun for everyone. It’s not the quality of the sound system or the type of snacks you provide.
However, that’s only if your interest is in your wedding guests having a lot of fun. If it doesn’t really matter to you whether or not they have fun, as long as they are well-fed, then the food becomes the most important thing.
My point is, invest more in what is important to you, and less in what is not.
What will most likely help you achieve your desired objective?
You want to showcase your financial might? Go big or go home. Do you want something small, cozy and intimate? Invite only 10 people and have fun amongst yourselves. You want to give your wedding lineup an experience they’ve never had before, hire a limo. You want to cut costs and both you and your wife truly believe a wedding isn’t the way to go? Head to the AG’s office.
But whatever it is you decide, stay true to yourself.
Speaking of staying true to yourself, let’s get into the positives. Here are the remaining 5 things I learned from planning my own Kenyan wedding.
Let me quickly go through them in the video below
5 things I learned from planning my own Kenyan wedding.
There you have it. A few insights I gathered from planning my own Kenyan wedding. I hope these insights help you out in some way as you prepare to walk down the aisle.
Cheers and God bless.